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Sorry… for being a Girl


While the entire nation is fighting against the heinous crime took place on 16th Dec’12 in the Capital of India and fighting for enforcement of strict law and safety of women, the so called “leaders” in Indian politics are making absurd comments.

gangrape-1_350_122912081535First ” Abhijeet Mukherji” ; the Congress MP and son of our very own President Pranab Mukherji, hurt the sentiments of women protesters by addressing them as “dented/painted” indirectly suggesting that those who party late, put on heavy make-up and wear fancy cloths have no rights to protest against anything unfair happening in the society, they also do not have any rights to be socially aware. I seriously don’t understand the logic behind it. If so then even our celebrities don’t have any rights to speak about any social issues. It shows how narrow minded these people are even after being educated well.

Then CMP MLA and former West Bengal minister Anisur Rahman, who went one step ahead by asking CM of West Bengal Mamta Bannerjee her charges for getting raped. If this fellow can have guts to make such comments on the CM of his state then we can only imagine how he would be treating other women in the society.

And now recently (who’s who) a senior BJP leader from Madhya Pradesh, Kailash Vijayvargiya, has asked women to be in their limits else they’ll get punished just as Sita. First of all I personally don’t find any sense why Sita was punished and secondly if there has to be any limit then it should be for both men and women. I like what Bollywood actress Priyanka Chopra stated after Delhi incident; “I may be walking naked but you still don’t have rights to rape me”. Absolutely right. Nobody and I mean nobody in this entire world has right to rape any girl/woman, no matter what she’s wearing or doing.

Some are trying to get away by blaming the western culture for such activities. But at the same time people forget that we come to know about such cases because they are reported at the first place. People in cities like Delhi or Mumbai are modern enough to stand up to fight against crime happened with women. If you think about the rural areas or villages, people feel lodging such complaints would only harm their image in society and bring them embarrassment. And even if they show some guts to do so they likely to be threatened.

If it had been the effect of westernization then there should have been more such cases in western countries and none in ancient  India. Also if you study these cases happening in cities you may find many accused are from small villages of India. So I guess by blaming western culture you are indirectly pointing finger at how girls in cities conduct themselves.

Instead of blaming any culture, be it western or eastern, you need to dig deeper to find the root cause, which is according to me is that most of the men in our society don’t treat women as a human being and an entertainment object instead. They might worship the goddesses but they lack respect towards women around them.

While we are discussing the ways to punish the culprits and safety of our women, such comments not only disturb us but also make us think, is this the average mentality of Indian men? Is this what all guys around us think about us? Our colleagues  our friends and for that matter the men in our family? Then from whom we are hiding, running away or protecting ourselves?

The scars are not yet healed and we already started getting news about rape cases in different parts of the country. And not all are illiterate or lower class people. Even the men working in MNCs are involved in such crimes showing their animal instinct and lack of respect towards women. And why to blame only the accused. We too just play the role of spectator. We don’t anything to stop the crime and don’t do anything even when the crime has happened. When the Delhi gang rape victim was thrown out of bus naked, shivering and bleeding no one even cared to cover her with shawl. We have become so numb.

I wonder whether a woman’s body is just for being used and thrown away like litter or do we actually deserve to be treated like a human being?

Delhi protest for gang-rape victimI read somewhere, “A girl is neither safe inside a womb, nor outside”. And sadly it’s a fact. Right from the female foeticide to sexual harassment they keep reminding us it’s not a good world for a girl to live. I born in a family with good values but they too don’t allow me to stay out late as my brother would, not because they discriminate between a girl and a boy but they know there’s a bad world outside and never know when and how I’ll have to pay a price of being born as a girl.

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Coz I was born this way


“Emotional, stubborn, short-tempered, bi-polar….” I have many adjectives and many good ones too 😉 . The good or the bad, they all are part of me, they make my nature, they make me as an individual and different. Some can adjust with them others cannot. Those who accept me as I am become my friends, forever; those who don’t, well it’s their problem. I’m good with those who are good to me, and others … they don’t really exist for me.

I don’t like to waste my weekends sitting idle at home. I’m fun-loving person who loves to party, go out with friends, explore new places. I love to go shopping, get dressed nicely and can’t stand people with horrible dressing-sense. I may spend handsome amount on a dress and may not wear it for even once if I don’t like it anymore. And like many girls I want something new for every occasion. I’m not so foodie but don’t like to visit the same restaurant every time.

I think too much and act weird sometimes. I can forgive my enemies but cannot forget what they did to me. I cannot pretend to be good if I don’t like someone. And if I like someone I tell them upfront.I love to pamper my friends (and the special friend too 🙂 ) and love to get pampered.  I don’t talk to strangers and want others to approach me. And then you think I have an attitude problem? Well, that’s the way I am. Love selflessly and hate completely.

My dad keeps telling me to change, have control on my anger. May be he’s not completely wrong, but if I change myself then I won’t be myself anymore. I won’t be me and I don’t wanna lose ME. I ain’t a bad girl and even if I do, I was born this way.

While I was falling down


God created human beings all with different behaviour, taste, passion and interests. Some like to live peacefully, some wants to do just nothing while some are always hyper and active. We all face troubles or obstacles in our way. That’s our destiny. But when life is smooth and someone is deliberately inviting troubles is seems to be insane. And these days I’m surely being the one. First I jumped off the bridge 215 m high and now from 10000 ft. with almost 250 Km/Hr speed. Who would want to put their lives in trouble and also pay handsome amount for it? Well there are such weird people and now I’m in their club ;).

It’s my second trip to South Africa and now that I’ve seen all major tourist places here my focus is on doing some adventurous stuffs this time. And guess what! I’ve already done one and I’m all the more happy that I could do it in this month. It’s a birthday gift to myself (though in advance). After doing bungy from Bloukrans Bridge I have gained courage to do more. And then I decided to go fo Sky Diving. I was so nervous when I did bungy but this time I was very much relaxed as it was tandem dive. There was a feeling of security as the person diving with you is a professional diver and would take care of everything. But yes, anyone who’s gonna do something like this for the first time might not feel the same.

We were a group of 15 with girls in minority (as usual). Like last time I was wearing my Bugy t-shirt not to show off but to give myself a motivation. My fellow divers were so sure about me after knowing that I’ve done bungy before. So it was kinda cool :).

I was excited about dive but waking up so early (4.30 AM) was equally difficult for me. That was the only part I hated of all. We reached the Witbank Sky Diving Club by 8 AM. I had no issues with going in first few slots but then I wanted to do it with my friends and since one of them opted to go last we had to wait. And later we regratted our decision as we really had to wait for long and by then our excitement dropped down.

So finally after waiting for couple of hours it was our turn. We could see the coordinators names on the board along with ours. The co-ordinator came and handed over the suit to us and started explaining the rules. We were all geared up. The cameraman was shooting every bit.

We reached the runway where a plane was all set to take us UP.

We sat in front of the co-ordinator assigned to each one of us and the plane took off. I was already feeling happy that now I was going to accomplish one of my bucket list item. I wasn’t at all scared as I was while bungy. Looking outside the window I was enjoying the view. My co-ordinator was showing me the reading. On 10000 ft. we were supposed to jump and at 5000 ft the parachute will be opened. We were not at 10000 ft and all set to experience the thrill of being on top of the world from where everything just look so tiny.

Two of my friends jumped before me and now it was my turn. I stepped out of the plane and on count of 1,2, 3 was pushed by my co-ordinator. The cameraman was already hanging outside the plane to take our stills and video.

35 seconds of free fall, I was screaming with joy. We covered 5000 ft distance in mere 35 sec with around 250 KM/HR speed. It was breathtaking.

At the hight of 5000 ft the co-ordinator opened the parachute and we relaxed. Now it was time to just enjoy the view up and down.

The earth was looking just as it looks in google earth :).

It was quite chilling at this hight. The co-ordinator showed me some tricks with the parachute and we started spinning around. That was so fun. I felt as if I got wings and now I can fly anywhere. I wish I could just keep flying but as they say “all good has to end” this too was supposed to come to an end. we started our landing process. Observing the wind direction we started coming down and landed safely.

10000 ft, 35 sec free fall, 250 KM/HR speed and a priceless experience. You could see that on my face and in my wide smile after the successful landing :). Yippppeeeeeee! I did it :).

Love makes me confused


‘Made for each other’ , ‘Deeply in love’, ‘Like Romeo and Juliet‘ , sometimes these phrases seems so stupid and the love-birds starts chirping over my head as if I  have banged my head on something hard.

Love, quite sensitive topic and after reading my post people are gonna almost kill me with their comments. But doesn’t matter, this is my space to express my views.

What is love?…Ahhhh…chuck it. Here I’m not gonna discuss about the love between brothers and sisters, between mom and daughter bla bla. I’m gonna talk about love between a guy and a girl.

Well most of the times I feel there exists no such feeling called love between a boy and a girl. (Grrrrr….here I’m gonna get one big slap). So before you do that let me explain it further.

Let me give you an example. The best friends turned partners. (I really don’t understand this combination). This is a typical scenario where a girl and a boy are friends for many years and finally realize they are in love with each other. (Basic plot of many Indian movies). I find it so immature (here I get another slap).

There is a famous dialog of Hindi movie which goes like ‘a girl and a boy can never be friends’ (WTH).

So what I think in this case that these best friends are so used to of each other, spending time together, roaming around, seeing each other everyday that when they go with someone else or they separate for some reason they feel a void which is misunderstood as LOVE. Whereas it’s mere a habit, you are habitual of being with that person that you start missing him/her. And because of such immature people other best friends have to face such torturous dialog.

Yes, it is absolutely just a habit. Have you ever tried to stay away from your best friend a little longer without thinking that what you feel is love and without making efforts to call frequently? If you do that you will surely realize it yourself and you’ll not miss him/her that badly. Why don’t you feel the same for the friend of same-sex? Their absence is acceptable. You just move ahead by saying you miss them but you won’t accept that it can be love. Why not? Because that will make you sound like a gay or lesbian. Then why do you label your friendship with your best friend of opposite sex as LOVE?

I feel a love can be a feeling which doesn’t fade away with time and distance neither it requires a distance to realize. And without even trying hard to keep it alive if you can still feel the same for your best friend then it is surely the love else I would say stop fooling yourself and your friendship.

If there’s a Will, there are thousand Ways!


I learned that physical distances do not really cause distances in any relationship but the lack of will power and wish that cause it.

People say they are too busy to call back home or to their loved ones but no one on this earth is so busy to do that. Even the busiest person takes out time to change his underwear or for that matter to pee (now I’m sounding disgusting but that’s the truth). So he/she can surely take out time to be in touch with their own people.

People keep complaining about many thing like being very busy or not having enough money. But these are not the real problem.

Real problem lies within people.

When people get into a relationship (GF/BF) or get married they suddenly disappear from the social gatherings. There are many reasons to it. And as every coin has two sides this problem too has two sides.

The first one is people themselves feel out of the league for such event after marriage and also they have tendency to spend all the leisure time with their partners rather than spending it with friends/relatives.

The other side is when people get married their friends think that they are busy  and will not come for a party or a day trip. Which most of the time is true but what’s the harm in inviting? You never know they might join you even if it’s for some time.

So everything comes down to one’s will to make it happen.

Until now I too was in the same league but now I have realised and I have decided to do every bit to keep in touch with my old friends, family and make their special days more special by even making international calls or sending bunch of roses.

As it’s rightly said “There’s a will, There’s a way” and I’ll moderate it a little as “if there’s a will, there are thousand ways”

We think that our life is hell complicated but on the other side the world is coming closer with the grace of technology. It’s just matter of having internet connection and you can chat with many friends at the same time. Online shopping and gifting can do at least a little to spread smile on your loved ones faces in your absence. Calling rates have gone down and even international calling is not expensive as before.

We have plenty of options to connect with our people and do the same as we would have done being with them. It’s just a matter of a will power.

Now that reminds me I have to make a call back home :).

Weekly Photo Challenge – Summer


This week’s theme looks much interesting as it’s summer in India. So there’s a room for lot many ideas and pictures for this week’s theme. But due to some personal commitments I am quite late for posting it.

For Indians, summer is incomplete without delicious and mouth-watering Mangoes. So what else could have been better to interpret summer being an Indian? 🙂

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We aren’t aliens…


This is something which is pinching me since the time I started staying in a rented house away from my family in Pune, sharing it with other girls. We all have come from decent families, we have our own moral and principles, we are responsible, we are mature enough to know what is right and what is wrong, bla bla. We were part of a society until someone declared that bachelors/bachelorette are not be given flat on rent in society. Reason, the behavior of bachelors is indecent. WTF!

I still stay in Pune in a rented house but our society is not giving flats on rent anymore. The reason is same.

As I said even we come from decent family then why are we treated like criminals?

If any society secretary comes and denies giving flat on rent to me just because I’m single I have these questions for him/her:

1. What is the definition of decency according to you?

2. You claim that people in your society are decent, can you give me the proof?

3. You say the behavior of bachelors is spoiling your kids. What if your kids are already spoiled or what is the proof that after denying flats to bachelors your kids will behave nicely?

4. We too are sons/daughters of someone like you. Do you indirectly blaming our parents for not raising us properly?

5. You object if a girl visits boys place and vice a versa, saying that we must be doing some objectionable thing. Even the married people have extra-marital affairs. What if a guy visits your place when your wife is alone at home? Now we too have reason to object.

6. What if in future your son/daughter travels to other city and is being denied to stay in a good society just because she’s bachelor? Would you accept that she/he is indecent?

We understand your point as we know how some bachelors behave and misuse the freedom. But generalizing it is your mistake. We want to stay in a good society not just because we are earning good and afford to pay the rent but because we too want to stay in good environment, in a good house and in a society which assures our safety.

You always have an option to kick them out if found guilty than not allowing them to stay. And for that matter you too were one of us. If everyone does that then where we are supposed to stay? Think about it before denying any bachelor to stay in your society.

Now I’m Beautiful too :)


It’s hardly been 5 months that I started blogging; but it has given me so many things. It not only helped me discover myself but I found some really nice people here. My fellow bloggers not only encouraged me but had been saying such a lovely words.

While some love me as their daughter, for some I’m a good friend. Some find me Kreative, some Versatile. Some think I’m Inspiring while others are running short of words (ABC).

And now few days back I realized I’m beautiful too ;). Thanks to two beautiful souls Nabadip (young star) and Aamina (a friend from the other side of the border) for giving me this compliment :). Both of them honored me with this award the same day and made my day more beautiful :).

Now as all of us are aware, I have to carry out my duties of receiving the award.

1.Thank the person who gave you the award – already done 🙂
2.Paste the award on your blog – checked
3.Link the person who nominated you for the award – yes, I did
4.Nominate your choice of bloggers
5.Post links to the blogs you nominated

They say “Happiness comes from sharing” , so I’m gonna make 5 more beautiful bloggers happy today 🙂 (In no particular order)

1. Sapna

2. Madhu

3. Prakshi

4. Canon

5. 3rdCultureChildren

Coincidentally all the ladies are nominated, guys please don’t beat me ;).

Congratulations to all 5 beautiful ladies…keep posting.

And this song is dedicated to all my beautiful fellow bloggers 🙂

Love,

What Life Says

Weekly Photo Challenge – Journey


Place: Cape Town, South Africa… On our way to Chapman’s Peak

Camera: My Nokia E5 mobile, 5 Mega Pixel

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